When you don’t answer the phone after an argument with your ex: beware!  He might get angry.  But at the rate my ex and I were going,   we are both already angry and quite over one another.   As I mentioned in my earlier post (Can’t reconcile your racism?), he called me the other morning, knowing that I was not feeling well, just waking up (it was 7:30a.m.) only to rail on my political views which are the polar opposite from his. I hung up on him, as he has done to me on many occasions, because every time I tried to have a civil discussion or respond to his questions, he would cut me off, talk over me, say “blah, blah, blah” — very mature, right? So, I just hung up. He calls me back. Three times. I was unable to answer because guess what? I was in the restroom. So he leaves me a message that I do not listen to because I did not feel like dealing with the stress.

This morning, I decided to call him that since he complains that I treat him like a “throw-away” friend. He says, “Good morning,” and I say “Hey,” and he says “I thought I told you not to contact me?” and I said “I deleted your message.” and he said, “You should listen to them. You don’t have enough respect for me to answer the phone when I call, then we don’t have to talk.” and I said, “Have a nice day.”

Then, as I was laying in bed staring at the ceiling I thought to myself: “Seriously? He has the GALL to talk about respect out of all of the times he disrespected ME?”

Being me, I knew this was not going to be a battle I was going to simply let slip past. So I called him back, he didn’t answer, so it was my turn to leave a message:

“Seeing as how you are in the business of making premature judgement calls: I was in the bathroom when you called. Also, you have some nerve talking about respect, considering all of the times you have: hung up on me, called me stupid, criticised my upbringing, criticized minority groups, my political views all while KNOWING that these were contentious topics between us. That is disrespect. Understand, that I have NO problem never talking to you again. Because remember, I was the one to tell you to get lost.”

Click.

He calls back. I answer and say: “This is me, hanging up.”

Click.

I have to admit, this is not the most pleasant of feelings. He is my ex, but he was also my ‘friend’. We confided in one another, knew we would be there for each other, etc, but understood that politics and race were conversations we are incapable of having civil discussions about. It’s a shame that it ended like this, but you know what? I say, it’s time to detox.